Signs of being abused
A person may be in an abusive relationship if there are even some of these signs.
The person’s partner exhibits several of the signs listed in Signs That a Person is Abusive: The abused person shows no outward signs, the partner appears to be abusive by exhibiting Warning Signs.
Withdraws from others: Reduces communication with family, friends, colleagues; has little or no social life; stops attending events or participating in activities formerly enjoyed
Personality and mood changes: The person seems more guarded and less outgoing; there are more mood swings or the person seems more depressed, anxious, fearful or unsettled.
Impaired decision-making: An abused person may appear increasingly indecisive and unable to make or commit to a decision. Because of eroding self-esteem, the person may be flustered easily, and needs to ask or consult with their partner about almost everything.
Limited access to money: The person’s financial situation may appear to change – they rarely have money for personal spending and often indicate they can’t afford things or are required to ask their partner for money. Even groceries or other “necessary” purchases require explaining or justification to a partner.
Drops hints about problems: A person may refer to conflict or arguments at home and wonder how to make the relationship work, feeling responsible for it. They may increasingly refer to the partner’s anger, temper or stress.
Health problems become chronic and injuries are not adequately explained: A person under physical or psychological abuse may experience more frequent headaches and other ailments and exhibit greater absenteeism. They may offer “weird” explanations for visible injuries or bruises (such as walking into doors).
May use drugs and alcohol to self-medicate or cope: The increased use of alcohol or medications such as pain-killers, anti-depressants or sleeping pills may be a person’s response to the effects of abuse.
Talks about the partners substance abuse: The person may use their partner’s substance abuse or drinking to explain or justify abusive or controlling behaviour; but substance abuse does not cause domestic abuse.